Some thoughts on Love...

Warning: If you are in love, read slowly without jumping to conclusions. And read twice. (Who in life hasn't for at least once, fallen in love!?!?)

Read on:

Love is a highly non-linear transformation.

I am currently faced with a confusion between two of my friends who love each other. Presumably. And since one year, every week they say to each other that it is not a feasible idea to go ahead and let the story end. The guy has conveyed this to the girl and presumably again, the girl agreed. But the story does not end. There have been many such cases and there is denial from one side, mostly the girl's side, citing family reasons and whole lot of illogical statements. But this case is with the guy refusing to go ahead and the girl not letting it go. Well, since both are kind of very close to me, I am watching the scene, without enjoying it.

What is the point at which you decide to move on in life? If you really loved that person, does it take this much time to understand whether he is really interested?

What right do people have to give pain to others around them just because they still are not clear about how to go ahead in life? What goes on in the minds of their parents who are still agreeing to support the youngsters, thinking they will come to a good conclusion?

For a single guy or a girl, there will be many people who will be interested and who would love them. But it finally depends on one particular guy-girl pair who decides to take the plunge and go ahead in life together.

Clinging on to one person when the matter is not consistently two-sided is an insult to the very concept of love. Love is always two sided. If it is one-sided, it is more of admiration or fan-following than actual love. And there needs to be a consistency in behavior of both persons.

I have heard girls threatening to kill themselves unless the other person 'agrees' to love them. And forget about guys - they can go to any extent to 'prove' they love the girl, including cases of threatening to destroy the girl's life if unrequitted.

Is this love? Its like you love a football player or a movie actor and can die for him/her. And I am sure love is much higher than this.

Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.

One big thing in love is guts. The ability to take risk. Its less about finding a highly compatible person. Its about being convinced that under any circumstances, both pilots can fly the biplane higher and higher. (In fact, hundred percent compatibility sometimes makes life boring!)

You never marry a ready-made off-the-shelf right person. Once you are single-mindedly dedicated to someone (s)he becomes THE right person because of the mutual interaction.

There is no ONE right person in life. But there is just ONE soul partner.

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.

A person who truly loves you will never let you have reasons to cry even by mistake. And if (s)he does that once in a while, it is pardonable. But you can easily make out what love is compared to what those fleeting experiences were. May be (s)he did love you that time. That way many times many people would have loved and will love you too, expressedly or inexpressedly. But if that feeling is not consistent and stable, it is not love, I am sure. It was a more of a neuro-cardiac malfunction.

Just because someone loved you for sometime, don't destroy the happiness of people near you, particularly parents. There will be many who loved you for sometime, say few days/months/years.

There is no method in love. But there's one sure test - you are happy in love.

If you aren't happy in the long run, you aren't in love.